This one is for the men....

I feel a bit like I have been “man bashing” lately on here. I know that women and men all have faults and let’s be honest, no one is perfect.  However, I DO work in an office with 64 women and 1 man.   So as much as we try not to talk about our personal lives at work, we do end up speaking about our significant others often. 

Just today one of my co-workers was up in arms about her husband.  Yesterday they celebrated their 20^th wedding anniversary.  Like any normal working woman she expected to see a nice arrangement of flowers/candy/gifts arrive at her office during the day.  When that didn’t happen she was sure the arrangement was too large for the delivery truck driver, so it would be sitting at home on the kitchen counter for her after her long day of work.  When that didn’t happen she was SURE that her husband was going to surprise her with a nice romantic dinner with candles and a rose on her plate.

Well, needless to say, none of that happened.  What she got instead was a small arrangement from the grocery store and a Bose sound system for them to “share.” 

Like any other woman after being married to a man for 20 years would do - she let her hubby have it!  “Who brings home flowers from the grocery store to celebrate 20 years of marriage?!  Who cooks dinner for his wife, then makes HER wash the dishes?!!  Who buys speakers to be shared?!”  Understandably her feelings were hurt as he stood there in a state of confusion.

As a ‘typical’ man he didn’t get it… Why aren’t Publix flowers good enough?  Why not share a gift? And what’s so wrong with washing dishes after someone else cooks for you? Well on any other day of the year all of these gifts are perfect ideas to show your love.  However dear male reader, women want, no need a little bit extra attention sometimes. 

I’m going to tell you a secret that will hopefully help you out in the future…. Women want flowers delivered to their office so that they can show YOU off to their coworkers.  We want to have the large vase filled with fragrant blooms so that our friends will rave about how lucky we are to have you in our lives.   We want the piece of jewelry so that when our friends ask where we got it, we can casually mention that our loving husband/boyfriend surprised us with it.  Basically we want these gifts to make you look good (with a side of making our coworkers jealous as well). 

So all you husbands and boyfriends out there who are wondering what to do make your loved one’s day – Send flowers!  Send chocolate! Send fruit arrangements! I assure you it doesn’t matter what you send, just ensure that it is not from the grocery store and it arrives at her office with a great big bow on it!