More importantly, I know that when they come back 15 years after they pledge they will have the best sisters and friends a girl could ever ask for.
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Monday, August 6, 2012
This week starts a new challenge for me.
No, I’m not restarting my 90 day challenge nor am I training for a new race, nor did I decide to take on any extreme sports…. I am becoming a ‘One Week On, One Week Off Parent’.
For the past five years I have put up the argument that my little man needs to be with his Mommy as much as possible. Sure, he can see his Dad whenever he wants, and yes I encourage long weeks away on family vacations with the “other family.” But all in all, I knew that I had my little man at home with me most of the time. I was content, my little man with me and all was right in the world.
Then it hit me! My little man is growing up. He has friends and not all of his friends live in my neighborhood. He has sisters – you guessed it, they live at his Dad’s house. He has toys and games and bikes and an entire little life and I am not part of it.
I asked my little man his thoughts on going to his Dad’s for one week and my house for one week? His response was something like this: “Mom, why are we STILL talking about this? I told Dad this so many times. I am o.k. with staying for a week. I would like it. Plus, really Mom, it’s just a week.”
Ok, little Dude, I hear you. It really is ‘just a week’. I can try to do this.
So, after much deliberation, a few long talks with girlfriends and other single parents and a few sad thoughts, I gave in. I am going to try this out and see how it goes. I packed up not one, but three bags of stuff for my little man – baseball gear, baseball uniforms for a week, swim gear, ear meds, summer homework, summer reading lists, school supply list and directions a mile long on all the ins and outs of having my little man for a week.
My little man was set and I was mentally prepared for my one week "off". I dropped him off and unloaded his luggage while his step mom looked at me with crazed eyes and an overwhelmed expression. Apparently, in all of the debating and fighting back and forth about our one week on/off program, my ex -husband forgot to mention to his wife that our little man will be with them for a week! She will now be handling the camp drop off, the lunches, the pick-up and the homework, meals and all the other fun of having three kids at home for the summer.
I quickly hugged and kissed my little man and ran out of the house as fast as I could. I swear I could see the steam coming off the step mommy and I was not about to be a part of that conversation. I will be happily enjoying my “off week” and I might suggest to Super Step Mommy to repeat as I do - “it’s only a week, it’s only a week, it’s only a week….”