Daddy Ball and when Daddy isn’t wanted anymore
Let me start by saying that there is nothing better than seeing a parent volunteer to coach their child in his or her sport. I worked at the YMCA for many years and youth sports programs can’t run without caring parents who volunteer to teach young people how to kick a ball, throw a spiral or bunt a bat. However there comes a time when young athletes outgrow their parent and ultimately have to break up.
For our family the break up happened around age 10. Let me start the story when Samuel was 3. Three seemed to be a little young to play sports, but Sam was athletic, and like I said before I worked at the Y, so I was able to sort of get Sam started early. Our first venture was t-ball. My village at the time all participated in coaching. Sam’s Dad stood at first base, my boyfriend at 2nd base, my Dad at 3rd base, and of course me sitting down with the parents behind home plate. Sam LOVED having all of his favorite people with him. He would run the bases and high five each person who was coaching that section. He loved hearing advice from his Dad or my Dad. The games were short (AMEN for T-ball!) and we had a great time.
After we graduated T-ball and ventured into Little League Sam’s dad still volunteered as a coach, but Pop Pop and I stayed in the stands, no comment as to what happened to that boyfriend. Little league was great because there were more kids to meet, more dads to coach and “real” umpires to work the games. By around age 8/9 when Sam started pitching we figured out his Dad was a really good pitching coach. He would work with Sam at home and always helped the other kids out at the fields. Sam definitely looked up to him for pitching advice and had eyes to be ‘just like Dad’ as far as baseball was concerned.
|(Notice boyfriend and ex husband both cut out of this photo)|
I was so proud of Sam and told him he needed to tell his Daddy. We called his Dad and he told him his wishes. I am not going to lie; it was tough on all of us. The next day Sam’s Dad came to the game and sat in the stands for the rest of the tournament. We decided that as much as they both loved to share baseball, the coaching/player relationship was too much for them. We found a travel team led by coaches who don’t have children on the team and realized that Sam responded really well to their energy and instruction. Sam still plays Little League and loves all of the volunteer Dads that coach in the system. His Dad will be a practice coach, pitching coach and work with Sam whenever he needs. The balance of both has led to a great relationship for him and his Dad. However, he won’t be calling pitches from the dugout.